2019 · Family · Memories

How do you hold on to memories?

I have a terrible memory. It’s funny, for some things, I can remember clear as day, stupid details like the specific outfit I was wearing on a day that barely matters. Other times, I desperately try to remember all the details of my wedding day as it fades further and further away every year.  That’s why one of my big goals for 2019 is to be a better memory keeper. My goal is to catch up on creating photo books, organize all my digital photos so they are together in one place and labeled by folder, and maybe most importantly, start collecting memories from both sets of grandparents so that I can pass these memories on to Dashel and Sailor, even when my memory fails me.

Over the Christmas dinner table, while we all gorged on stuffed shells, my mom and I started talking about all the old photos she had in her basement that she wanted to go through. We started reminiscing and it made me think, God, I want to get this all down! So I forged a plan for 2019 that included periodic emails to my mom and dad, and to Steve’s parents with writing prompts for them to recall special memories in their own words. My plan will be to archive all these emails throughout the year and then be able to make a book of stories and memories as a keepsake.

In addition, while I was Christmas shopping, I came across this book of letters,  while it’s certainly a great idea for a gift, you really have to know your parents. Are they the kind of people that will sit down on their own time and write a long letter independently, without any prompting, and place it in the envelope, and remember to give it to you? No? Maybe your mom is like mine? Like, maybe, you asked her to write a letter to your son for his second birthday and she didn’t finish it until his third birthday and she still hasn’t printed it out to give to you- and he’s turning 4 in March… 😉 I love you, Mom. Needless to say, as adorable as this book of letters is, it’s not our family’s bag… so instead I’m going with the email approach. Although, what I did like about the book of letters is that it included some prompts that weren’t necessarily all about recalling memories. Some of the prompts were to write about their hopes and dreams for their grandchildren for the future, and what the best piece of advice anyone ever gave them was. I loved these additions and will probably add them to the emails as well.

My first prompt went out this week, and it was “Tell me about how you met Mom/ Dad.” The responses were great. They made me smile to myself as I heard my parent’s voices in my head speaking the words. They were also very in tune with who my parents are as people, my mom’s was short and sweet, and a little fuzzy on the details. My dad waxed poetic and set the scene by mentioning signs of the times like Vietnam and hippies being the back drop of their first encounter. The other cool thing that happened was that is sparked a fun conversation between my folks while they reminisced together after writing their emails. And isn’t that what it’s all about after all, sharing our memories with our family to feel more connected- that’s my hope for the future anyway.

(I’ve also decided it would probably be a good idea to answer the prompts myself, and maybe have Steve write about them too so we can keep track of our memories and add them for Dash and Sai too.)  The above photos are two of my favorite of my mom and dad. Look how happy and in love they look, and how well rested! These were obviously taken before they had my sisters and I….

2019 · Bettering yourself

Week One check in…

<PHOTO ABOVE is a screen capture from the CALM app, the app I use to meditate with, do meditations with my kids with, listen to while I sleep for ambient music/sounds, and everything else with- I’m basically obsessed with this app *not sponsored!>

Hey there! How’s your 2019 going so far?

I’d love to say that mine is going smashingly, I’m crushing all my goals and killing it in every area, but alas, it’s been a rough start. I’m working towards trying to be easier on myself, as I tend to be rather hard on myself. Unfortunately, my number one problem with 2018, has found me again in 2019, and that problem is TIME. It just never seems like there are enough hours in the day to get everything done that I’d like to do.

Over the past 7 days I have accomplished…

  • Working out/getting exercise 6 days (I took Sunday off as a recovery day)
  •  Meditated 5 days
  • Read 4 days
  • Journaled 3 days
  • Ordered this  and got all the pics off my phone and onto my computer (but I still need to go through the photos and organize them)
  • Been keeping up with the organizing and decluttering I’ve done including doing the ‘dumb stuff’ that seemingly gets put on the back burner all the time. (i.e. replacing batteries in the clock in the guest room, fixing the silverware drawer that would fall off the track every time I opened it, etc.) (See the photos below of what my playroom looked like before and after!)

Hoping that this week brings a bit more motivation and energy to keep on moving!

How’s your progress?

Here’s what else I’ve been up to this week…

Just found this podcast and I’m catching up on old episodes and loving it so much.

Obsessed with this EP. Literally listening on repeat.

The book I’ve started…and am dying to read more of.

The workout program I’ve started and is kicking my ass. (this is not a sponsored post, I’m just sharing this info with you!)

No joke… these are the BEFORE pics of our playroom- however, this is the worst it has ever been because we started throwing things in piles so we could remove the couch that was in there to make more space for Christmas toys- yes, really.

And the AFTER!

2019 · Bettering yourself · Goals

So, this is the New Year!


So, I’ve recently realized that New Year’s is my favorite holiday! I think it’s because I truly appreciate the idea of having a clean slate, and January 1st. is the ultimate. Last year, I approached 2018 by choosing a word of the year. By choosing one special word, the idea is basically to embody that word throughout the year and let it shape your decisions and experiences. I chose the word CULTIVATE. (I wanted to focus on cultivating a better life for myself all around- that included, but wasn’t necessarily limited to, eating healthier, exercising more consistently, decluttering my home, getting organized and living with more <being in the present moment> intention.) While I did feel like having this word in my mind’s eye helped to identify the things that I wanted to get done, it didn’t necessarily keep me accountable, on track, and consistent about working towards my goals. If anything, 2018 did help me to pinpoint my priorities and research what steps I could take to actually work towards achieving them. In the following video, I break down my <incredibly> detailed plan for what strategies I will be using this year to hold myself responsible, which is hard for me, with my obliger personality. I hope you can use some of these tips and links to help you this year meet all your goals! (Links to all resources can be found at the bottom of this post.)

Also – what are you doing New Year’s Eve? Steve and I are staying in and making vegan poutine and watching Amalie. I literally cannot imagine anything better.


Gretchen Rubin’s yearly challenge (19 for 2019)

The Happiness Project

Doing an annual review (scroll down to extended cut #12)

Elise’s Daily Habit Tracker– sign up for her newsletter to get the free download!

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